Dealing with heartbreak

[HeyJoeI]

It happens to anyone with a heart. I fall in love in the same way. I adored this person. It wasn’t realistic for me to try but I tried anyway. She went away. I felt loss for over a week. I looked at a photo a year later & I had to turn away. Most people don’t end up happily with the person they adored. This person initiated the friendship but never with the intention of more than general friendship. I have someone more suitable but I hardly see her. She says she loves me. I’m learning to spend most of my time alone. She is my best option as to who I want. I get a bad feeling at times. Compared to the problems I have I will get familiar with this routine. I wouldn’t recommend it to anyone else. I would do/would have done anything for either of them but my feelings were/are not a priority to either of them. I’m old. That’s why I am accepting of these conditions. My psychologist would advise against either person. One too young. The other works in an exotic industry.

[Rockdog]

Hi @RiverSeal 

Thank you for your help 😊

[Rockdog]

Hi @tyme 

that was meant to be I can’t believe i am in so deep, as in fallen so hard. I guess that is the good and bad thing about our feelings. They just happen sometimes  🥰

[tyme]

Hey @HeyJoeI ,

Thanks for popping by and sharing. It sounds like a common situation in that people pour their heart out only for the other person to walk away? 

Would you share something you learnt from your experiences?

[tyme]

Hey @Rockdog ,

Good to see you have insight into what is happening. I hear that you can be feeling quite sad at times, but as you said, that's the nature of our feelings. 

Hold onto the image of that feather. 

These are things to hold on to. Hope is something we don't understand. But if we believe and hope, it will keep us going. 

You can do it!

[HeyJoeI]

I am looking for someone who I consider looks beautiful. I would say I am a 3 & my current interest is a 7.5 (I don’t believe in valuing people this way but everyone does, regardless of what they say. My first tip*) People come into your life sometimes because you have an ability that can aid them. In exchange they will give you charm which brings you happiness. Exaggerated goodness & spirituality can accompany this (an unspoken exchange *) Then when they need less support they withdraw. You find yourself examining what happened. They spend their time living happily with friends & family. If you are lucky you may have friends & family also. I did not. I could see the signs but chose to ignore them because I wanted the friendship to last forever.

[tyme]

Very interesting insight @HeyJoeI . Food for thought.

[HeyJoeI]

My pleasure. Wish the world was an even playing field for all concerned. However there are many variables

[HeyJoeI]

Yes it’s one thing to speculate on someone else’s emotional issues. It’s completely another thing living them

[Rockdog]

Hi @tyme 

Im not sure if I really have insight. All I know is it is hard when sometimes I feel really positive about things, and then I feel sad that it might not happen and I get a bit anxious that my hope is a waste of time.

Thank you for reminding me of those things. With the changes in her circumstances along with those the things you mentioned, I really do believe that things will work out. I do though sometime doubt myself that I read things correctly, and sometimes ruminate over some mixed messages. 

When it comes to connection I do think that you just know don’t you? I think if it wasn’t there then I wouldn’t be feeling like this.

In general I do think I’m really slowly improving, and that like you say, when the time is right the universe will help. I know that I have things to work on and the time isn’t right yet. Thanks for your support, my hope will become reality right? 😊