03-11-2019 03:00 PM
03-11-2019 03:10 PM
03-11-2019 03:10 PM
Hi @Everan I can't really help as far as controlling the conversation goes. Even 10 years post diagnosis with bipolar 1, in many situations I would simply exit stage left. I won't be pressured into disclosing my diagnosis, and am very choosy who I do tell. Only certain close family members and people who have already earned my trust which is very hard to do these days as I also have complex PTSD from a lifetime of traumatic events, and social phobia in many situations. If the topic of either bp or ptsd comes up I go into listening mode if I can, and if not (usually) if I have to I will say something like 'now isn't a good time for me to get into this' and if it's a person I feel safe enough with I will suggest a time when I will talk about it, but that's pretty rare. I hear you about it being hard to listen at times, my mind can go into lots of rapid thoughts about past experiences quite easily and it's taken me years to get to where I don't have to verbalise that that is happening. Sorry I'm not much help with this.
But rest assured it is quite ok to tag me any time. I will offer support whenever I can.
03-11-2019 03:17 PM
03-11-2019 03:17 PM
Thanks @eth.!
That makes sense going into listening mode. I find that if it's safe it's better like at work at the moment. Thanks for the message 🙂
03-11-2019 03:31 PM
03-11-2019 03:31 PM
@Everan Hey Everan, I have schizoeffective disorder. I am a naturally quiet person. I find if I don’t know what to say which happens a lot, to go into listening mode is okay. People don’t mind if I just nod and smile. My mood and anxiety are huge struggles. I find walking and good sleep help. I have very difficult personal situation and very isolated, slowly working through that . Hope that helps a bit.
03-11-2019 03:47 PM - edited 03-11-2019 03:49 PM
03-11-2019 03:47 PM - edited 03-11-2019 03:49 PM
Yes that helps @Meowmy 🙂
It helps to know that it's okay to listen than escaping. I am trying to breathe and think of how i want to respond and just be natural.
Thanks for sharing 🙂 It's inspiring to hear what other people have gone through.
03-11-2019 03:55 PM
03-11-2019 03:55 PM
@Everan Hey Everan, I think some people are natural talkers and can talk a lot still need to learn there are topics not expected to be able to respond. May be don’t put pressure on yourself. Enjoy.
03-11-2019 03:59 PM
03-11-2019 03:59 PM
Hi @Everan its outside anything I know about but thanks for thinking of me. it sounds difficult
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03-11-2019 04:09 PM
03-11-2019 04:09 PM
🙂 @outlander It was just a quick message that i thought of no pressure. Thanks.
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