Dealing with heartbreak

[tyme]

It will happen @Rockdog . Things happen at a time we least expect. Just be ready for whatever will happen.

[Rockdog]

Hi @HeyJoeI 

It is sometimes hard not to judge ourselves harshly, I will do the same thing.Yes there are people who might be considered good looking, but who rates highly on one person’s scale might not rate on another’s scale. I therefore wouldn’t worry about it or chase anyone based on looks alone. Personality helps you rate much higher on the scale.My advice would be not to listen to a psychologist that suggests who you should or shouldn’t be with. Your heart will tell you. Don’t let go of that, or settle for someone who doesn’t make our truely happy. 

[Rockdog]

Thanks @tyme 

Working on it, but have a bit to do.

It is weird but I don’t really get how you are going along ok, then like last night get a bit sad and have a couple of drinks and you start to drift of track. Then tonight things seem really clear and focussed again. It is strange but work in progress. 😊

[HeyJoeI]

I do the same thing. I pick up on hints which I put aside hoping for a desirable outcome. I do know that it’s possible to change the way you feel internally. The challenge is that psychiatrists describe love as craziness & obsession. I am also obsessive. Redirection. When a client used to yell at me I forgot about my issues for a while. A change of environment is also of potential help

[Rockdog]

Thanks @tyme 

I think you are right. If it isn’t happening then it isn’t time. I guess I just worry that she has moved on, or doesn’t have the same feelings. Like you said though, all the time we spent together couldn’t have meant nothing. Deep down I believe it will as well. 😊

[tyme]

What I believe is that what is for you is for you even if the road taken looks a little different to what we expect. @Rockdog 

The things most precious are worth waiting for and fighting for. @Rockdog 

If things were said one off, then it's possible that there was a communication mix-up. However, if after over 100 hours, something tells me you can't be mistaken.

Things happen at a time we least expect.

[Rockdog]

Hi @tyme 

Thank you for being here for support, and helping me believe. What happens is I think of all the good times and I feel positive, then I think of the end and wonder if maybe I just took all the little nice moments and created my own story. You are right though, having a 45 minute session twice a week for over a year was a lot of time to spend together. I pretty sure we bonded. It is the end when she was so cold. I know you said why, and the way things have changed really points to that being the answer. There was a few times though that did make me wonder though. Like I think I told you, one time I asked if she would miss me and she said ‘I won’t miss work’

I thin’ that was implying I’m just work to her. But so much I couldn’t believe, and I’m sure she said she can see things working out. I just get impatient and don’t feel they will some times. I will always love her and she still owns my heart. 

[tyme]

I'm hearing you @Rockdog 

Just know that things will happen in their time. 🙂

[Rockdog]

Thanks @tyme 

I think that there was enough there to suggest it is real. The work comment doesn’t really mean she just thought of me like that does it? Like you said there was so much more with over 100 hours of bonding time. That is a lot for someone to just throw away isn’t it? 😊

[tyme]

People need to protect themselves @Rockdog . 

Give it time.